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Jordan Peterson - Get Over Your Fear of Rejection!

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original source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXZSeiAl4PI Psychology Professor Dr. Jordan B. Peterson talks about how men are motivated by the image of female perfection. He describes the paradoxical situation of being terrified by the women you are most attracted to. Dr. Peterson's new book is available for pre-order: 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos: http://amzn.to/2yvJf9L If you want to support Dr. Peterson, here is his Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/jordanbpeterson Check out Jordan Peterson's Self Authoring Program, a powerful tool to sort yourself out: http://bit.ly/selfAuth (Official affiliate link for Bite-sized Philosophy)
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Abhinav Anand (3 days ago)
No one is perfect but one cannot pretend to like someone..love is something that begins with attraction then grows in on you..How can u love someone if you are not fond of them?..I am talking about loving someone and not loving the idea of a someone..and just becoz u don’t fear something doesn’t mean u have to do it..People don’t fear going to the gym but most don’t go to a gym..in most cases Fear isn’t a reason why we don’t do something
Leonard Davinceze (3 days ago)
this was so incresdible helpful
Ash JK (5 days ago)
This man uses too many unnecessary words.....!
ben s. (8 days ago)
What if I don’t care about a woman’s judgment (the manifestation of worth) anymore? :/
ben s. (8 days ago)
Ah limerence...
Dada Ism (23 days ago)
He's addicted to water
Eddy Que (26 days ago)
same with applying for jobs... nothing more scary than putting yourself out there, and receiving the opinion that you're not good enough to get the job... it's tough but it's just the process of life sometimes asking out 30 different girls is worth it if it means finding that one person that appreciates you for you
acai (1 month ago)
As much as I respect Jordan Peterson, and even though he is right about what he says here; The true master of this stuff Owen Cook, aka RSDTyler.
Olahf Smart (1 month ago)
He's right. When I was 4 years old I've encountered a very beautiful girl of the same age, and she didn't approve or pay attention to my advance, or should I say I was too afraid to put advances forward, instead I destroyed her beauty because of what might have happened if I were to told her how much in love I was with her. So afraid of rejection from woman that I chickened out before even trying. Up until now I was relatively indifferent to feminine beauty and I realized why I was so unfulfilled and unwilling to engage in relationship with woman. Fortunately I'm only 20 and I've realized this that "early".
Zen (1 month ago)
RSD Jordan
Señor Picatelo (1 month ago)
I don’t have time for relationships and if a woman hits on me she better make it obvious otherwise I miss it by miles.
The Dudeman (1 month ago)
dude
Brandon Davis (1 month ago)
I tried to face my fear of rejection and the #metoo police arrested me for saying hello.... Damn son...now in sitting in the clink with just me and my meat, ya know what I'm sayin' dawg? Word
Brandon Davis (1 month ago)
He almost lost me when he said be chivarous to women... Doc, you are putting the cart before the horse brah... Only be that way when a woman deserves it brah...some of these stank azz hoez be nasty brah... It's a 50/50 thing brah... Braaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhb
William Wang (1 month ago)
I never had that big of an issue. This in Psychology is called systematic desensitization, women won't like it, but it for sure works if you are afraid of it.
K. H. (1 month ago)
Amazing...
Liam Locke (1 month ago)
1:20 that gulp though
Serious Commenter (1 month ago)
If I encounter rejection and just fail ...does that mean I'm at the same place still?
Flavor Of The Month (2 months ago)
This is all why its so important to get started ASAP on figuring out women, as a straight male. From your baseline instincts & with little experience, youll have to trudge through so much rejection and discomfort that youll likely feel overwhelmingly inadequate as a person (speaking from my experience), but you have no other option than to face it head on. Not only will you surely fail with the first women you try to be with, youll also have to sift through many of them to find out which traits you value, and which you are willing to sacrifice, in comparing the real girl to the ideal vision of the female Peterson talks about. If you dont go through this initial struggle, youll likely end up in shallow/fake relationships, or settling for someone else desperate. All this of course is based on the assumption that you seek a stable, loving relationship like i did. Good luck, and remember, it wont come naturally, youll have to abandon your comfort zone in ways you never have before
Mike Greg (2 months ago)
I want in-field footage of Jordan Peterson running game on bitches
stevenstrumpf7 (2 months ago)
I don't have a fear of rejection I have a reality of LIE allowance and welcome *fake smile
Josh Evans (2 months ago)
Men are such simps.
Tapio Pelkonen (2 months ago)
So what he’s trying to say is harass women whenever possible.
Eddy Que (26 days ago)
if you consider asking a girl out for a date "harassment"
Jerk of Hearts (2 months ago)
what a legend
Ankit Ghildiyal (2 months ago)
A must watch for Entrepreneurs and people in Sales.
MisterTutor2010 (2 months ago)
Does Jordan know what the word paradox even means?
MisterTutor2010 (2 months ago)
Other than that this video makes a good deal of sense.
Ron (2 months ago)
his students are so lucky to not just study but get education on life itself
x97sfinest (2 months ago)
Tfw you gay AF and none of this makes sense at all
Danny Here (3 months ago)
Its like I'm watching myself talking, only with 50 IQ more. This is excatly what I've explained to my friends when I figured this out, and I was only 17. Every woman wants you to like her for what she truly is, and that is something you need to dig up by yourself, as in this society almost all women are damaged and are scared to show true self. But only when you get to know true her, her flaws, her bad nightmares, she will then completely trust to you, connect with you and maybe even love you.
Bandit (3 months ago)
reading the comments i love fellow jordan peterson fan lmao even the bat shit crazy ones. Cuz they're at least hillariously bat shit crazy
Niki 9ine (3 months ago)
Women are just hoes
Flutsch Eins (3 months ago)
i want more of exactly this shit! where can i find it?
ta em chok (3 months ago)
ripxxxtentacion
ThruThe9 (3 months ago)
lol
Mocha Joe (3 months ago)
I once met my ideal woman at work, I said 'hi I'm name" but I said it so awkwardly it came out brain dead and dull, and she goes "uhhew ugh ok". I never fucked up an introduction that bad before
eddier2k9 (3 months ago)
shiiit. where was this professor when I was in college? 🤔💪🔥
Thot Slayer (3 months ago)
I wish I had him as my professor 😪
Vartolu Saadettin (3 months ago)
Separate them from the ideal. There is no ideal. They are puny and fake. Judge them on the individual.
Maksymilian Firkowski (3 months ago)
We need a gerderbender Jordan Peterson
Dr ThoughtBot (3 months ago)
I think to get over rejection you have to get comfortable with the fact that she’s not as awesome and perfect as she looks. She’s human and has irritating flaws. Then get more self confidence by realizing your value hasn’t changed or lowered just because someone isn’t in love with you. You should only be concerned if God himself says he doesn’t love you. But that will never happen so you’re good
0:45 Lemme smash!
KonyHawksProSlaver (3 months ago)
JP is the real Good Looking Loser
Japit Ranji (3 months ago)
Thank you God for Jordan Peterson. I can finally start living again. Thank you sir. Thank you for turning around my life.
Daffie Dill (3 months ago)
Im female and I've always been intimidated by men, perhaps Im a freak!
Lamont trent (3 months ago)
The manifestation of an judgmental ideal.
Sergio Specalsiki (4 months ago)
THIS GUY IS NOTHING BUT A JACKASS....
dustymare (4 months ago)
I have a fear of men but my fear tells me asking a bunch of random men for their numbers wouldn't be smart.
From Zombie To Superman (4 months ago)
Never place your worth and validation into the hands of those that don’t want you anyway, but instead, be grateful for them saving you time on your way towards someone better. In the meantime, keep improving and start attracting.
youtube watcher (4 months ago)
Youtube needs a repeat button.
Kevin Bandong (4 months ago)
But Thanos kneel for no one, especially to a girl. LMAO
pedro correa (4 months ago)
That's the stoic way. There is no way to control reality only our reaction to it. That's why a man should never count on what he can't control. He can hope for love, acceptance, sucess, etc, but can't count on it.
Sean Hazlett (4 months ago)
I hope there was one smooth guy in the guys club that never got rejected 😂
Gal Gavriel (4 months ago)
Anyone knows which painting of venus is it?
Hisoka Morrow (4 months ago)
The cultural marxism has been destroy western civiliaziation the only good thing is that when islam prdvail womem,lgbt freaks,sesnitivy pusies and atheist honna sed a new world a world in which to be male is rly a privilege
juan vega vega (4 months ago)
Thank for sub. Un spanish!!!
Viktor Stockholm (4 months ago)
Who is this guy exactly? Need to find books created by him and translated in my language.
Tiffany Wright (4 months ago)
I'm a woman but I can still relate. I am beyond terrified of my crushes!
Monocausal (4 months ago)
I've known this for a long time and still find a task like asking 50 girls for their phone numbers one of the personally most challenging things to overcome in the world. There is probably no other thing where my rational knowledge translates so poorly to my actions. It's a process and I'm always trying to get better, because beating yourself up as you did not manage to do something again is not helpful at all and just seems to enlarge the mental barrier. It's tough, but overcoming this is specific anxiety of approach and rejection is what I need to break through on the road to mental freedom. As Jordan Peterson said it in different context: Speaking up is dangerous and not safe. Doing nothing is even more dangerous as you don't get anything out of it. Everything we do and don't do has an impact. Wish me strength people, not giving up on this!
Listy (4 months ago)
Women get rejected too. It goes both ways. Men are perfectly capable of deciding who they want as partners too. It's not just men asking women and waiting for the woman's answer. We all have choices these days.
James Carmichael (4 months ago)
"I lost my phone, can I have yours?" --- Never worked
Hitman 22 (4 months ago)
Fear of rejection is an incredible mindfuck (pardon the language). It truly paralyzes you while you run 1000 different thoughts in your head about what might go wrong. And while it's easier to work around when you makes moves on a stranger, it's 10 times as hard when you're trying to approach a woman you know from school, college, work or from a social circle. Because one of the biggest drawbacks is the aftermatch and how you are going to be around that woman after you've opened up yourself to her and she has turned you down.
xVvix xnNix (4 months ago)
Trust me,women are just as terrified to approach you men !
Karam Adelmand (4 months ago)
A better title would be with “ How to “ im my point of view
Kennedy K (4 months ago)
I knew a homeless Hobo that would get drunk & come off in this kind of manor with his words, only he didn't know what he was even talking about!
American Sinner (4 months ago)
I used to like jordan Peterson now when I watched this I feel as if he's just a conservative simp
T Muskett (5 months ago)
Thanks for putting the original source in there
Klistern2 (5 months ago)
Just let them come to you. Win win.
no further west (5 months ago)
Gonna try the 50 phone nums thing
JayJun Lee (5 months ago)
I would pay my school tuition to attend one of his lectures
Pedro Martinez (5 months ago)
You son of a bitch, cannot describe how horrible and liberating is to hear the voice in your head outside in someone else. Thank you, Doc.
domi bryant (5 months ago)
Damn
domydishes (5 months ago)
asking women you dont care at all about for their phone number and such and approaching someone youre interested in is two very different things, theres no real fear of rejection, and rejection doesnt really matter, when it comes from people you couldnt care less about
Stella Ercolani (5 months ago)
I love chivalry...
pap pop (5 months ago)
His mom prob. Abused him mentally
A M (5 months ago)
Can I get some infield footage of JP crushing it at a nightclub ?
erhe etrherh (5 months ago)
You never get over it but you can tame it.
Nico (6 months ago)
Yeah!
iLIASS Issmaili (6 months ago)
I think peterson holds some really redicilous ideas. But I have to admit that he gives the best life advice.
Thechukkers (6 months ago)
I wonder if jordan has ever sucked a dick lmao
As Rai (6 months ago)
citation needed
Blind Wrath (6 months ago)
I got over the fear of rejection and I got rejected/friendzoned and now I'm depressed as shit.Thanks
Fire C (6 months ago)
I have approached a lot of women but can't agree that there is an ideal in my mind that terrifies me. The "terror" comes from knowing how aggressive and ruthless some of them can be when the man who approaches isn't their ideal image of a man. Also trying to live up to the expectations women have of men in terms of achievement and status is terrifying enough if you haven't achieved the kinds of things Peterson talks about in other videos. That is real life - not fantasy.
Joe Ashe (6 months ago)
1:57 made me get a tickle in my throat!
Mad Tech (6 months ago)
There are many factors in reducing shyness naturally . One resource I found which successfully combines these is the Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested) it's the most helpful resource i've heard of. Check out the great information .
tejdeep yaramati (6 months ago)
#RSD
Knight (6 months ago)
1:53 When your Proff is about to die
RHS (6 months ago)
Oh Huckleberry Finn, hopping and showing off to a girl. If he was a millennial he would have whipped out his dick to show how big it was.
stephen H (5 months ago)
suppressing woman idealization is to suppress love, desire emotions and feeling. So if it that is the price to get an actual woman i prefer to keep foolin myself in poetry. My ideal wife is a muse not an individual, and i ll keep looking for her all my life, no matter if eventually she rejects me or doesnt exist, i prefer to believe in love than cold pragmatism
When I see an anxious person, I ask myself, what do they want? For if a person wasn't wanting something outside of their own control (approval in this intance), why would they be stricken by anxiety? Epictetus. Read Epictetus Discourses people. It's life changing.
Rudy Labsilica (6 months ago)
“The manifestation of a judgmental ideal.”
Belatorius (7 months ago)
Dating is done digitally now
Volvox (7 months ago)
1:00 lemme smash... Edit: so the point is: get over it by encounter it.
been a cavsfan (7 months ago)
That ideal woman analogy is tuff
been a cavsfan (7 months ago)
I try to get rid of my fear of rejection by asking every cute girl that comes in my job for her number, I do it with confidence and the more I do it. The more proud I am of myself and the less I give af about a girl opinion
Tiffany hwang (7 months ago)
I was surprised one day I saw my nephew with foot and kinda limping, I asked him what happened and he said, he jumped off from a tall snow bank breaking his right foot to impress a girl... Lmao I saw laughing so hard, he swallowed his first red pill..
Paolo (7 months ago)
Women only exist to help men loose their fears? I must be blind to reality because of all the pussy in my face. Good thing Peterson comes along to show me how to get pussy when pussy in my face was a problem.
ThAdonis (7 months ago)
Maybe he needs to give his voice a break. He went from Kermit to https://youtu.be/OtSBXon6hko?t=12 in this one. Good stuff though.
cbunk47 (7 months ago)
"b*tches aint sh*t but hoes and tricks" - jordan peterson
Snuggle Bunny (7 months ago)
"It's not until he defeats the evil queen can he have a relationship with the actual princess" TF?! 200+-year-old fairy tales?! ...Really?! That's what he's teaching men to base their thoughts and approach to women on? Worse all fairy tales were written by MEN with zero female input. Mostly the Grimm Brothers. JP actually criticized Frozen a modern tale for being too empowering to women, "too feminist" ( Google it)! . OMG Peterson, you old, Cosby sweater wearing, hypocritical _academic who bites the hand that feed/feeds your mouth_ by criticizing academia as "feminized" and bad...You dinosaur! I fucking hate you.
rishav kothari (7 months ago)
Red pill
Bhaskar Khadka (7 months ago)
Good info the best results that i've had was with the Seans Shy Program (just google it) - I found it the no.1 info i've seen.
Naylor Underwood (7 months ago)
"Men's Group." Lol, just say fraternity.

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